💔 “I Feel Invisible in My Own Home…”

A mother recently confided in me with tears in her eyes:

“I feel invisible in my own home. My children don’t even notice when I walk into a room. My husband hardly speaks to me unless he needs something. I used to dream of being a professor, of doing research. Now, I cook, clean, smile, and sleep with tears that no one sees. I project an image of being successful, satisfied, and respected. But inside, I feel like I don’t even exist.”

My dear, If you’re reading this and it feels familiar, you’re not alone. And you are certainly not invisible to the universe.

From Devis to Shadows: The Forgotten Power of Mothers

Many mothers today feel invisible—not because they’ve become less important, but because the world has forgotten to truly see them. As soon as a woman becomes a mother, her identity often gets absorbed into her roles—cook, cleaner, planner, emotional guide—without pause or praise. The endless mental and emotional labour she carries goes unnoticed. She gives endlessly, often with a smile, while quietly losing touch with the woman she once was. Years of cultural conditioning have taught her to be selfless, to adjust, to stay silent. Slowly, she begins to feel like a background character in the story she once dreamed of leading. Even her reflection in the mirror starts to look unfamiliar, as her own needs and passions are pushed aside for everyone else’s comfort.

But it wasn’t always like this. In ancient India, a woman was revered as a Devi—the divine mother, the Janani, the giver of life and nurturer of future generations. The society honoured her role as sacred. Men deeply respected the women in their homes, not just in words, but through love, support, and acknowledgement. They understood that their success outside the home was rooted in the strength and stability offered by the women within it. There was no competition—only complementary strength. Women transformed houses into homes, and men saw this not as ordinary work, but as powerful, creative service. Perhaps the path to healing modern motherhood lies in remembering this ancient harmony—where being a mother was not a burden, but a celebrated force of life.

What Changed The Importance of Women In India?

This is what changed the importance of women in India. After industrialization, western countries, in order to grow their GDP, some rich factory owners wanted more hands to work in the factories. Men were already busy, then who else to employ? The women of course! The companies started offering factory jobs to women with handsome salaries for a 9 to 5 job. Women started taking home money which suddenly increased their spending power. Remember this was after World War 2 when people were living in utter poverty in the West. Back then women worked in the factories and took care of the household chores also happily. Happily, because they wanted to earn for their children who could now eat healthier meals and wear better clothes. The happiness and welfare of the children was their prime objective. Slowly, things changed. Someone introduced the evil of feminism amongst a few women probably by offering them better salaries or perks. Who knows? But these women were anyway not interested in their families. You know few women should not be around people. For them, Power was more important. They just wanted to be publicly seen as powerful women. Popularity over Family to be precise. These women started to demonize home chores. Some wise people connect the witches’ cooking and riding the brooms to bring down the image of any woman cleaning or cooking at home for her family members. This poison started to work slowly but surely, subconsciously and later manifested amongst the women. More and more women started to hate doing work at home. Men started to support by sharing the workloads. However since men were not traditionally brought up to work at home, many were made fun of. This led to irritation and fights between the couple. Children started to feel the brunt of violence at home. This was an important opportunity that few rich people encashed in their favour. They paid more to the feminists and started to encourage married women to divorce their husbands. What good is it to the rich men? Well, rich men will get richer only if more consumers buy their products. A divorced wife will have to rent or buy a new home, with new furniture, new appliances and monthly expenses. Doubling the profits by increasing the number of divorces seemed very simple to the rich men. Some call them deep state, I have no idea who are they. But it’s a collection of men who own large conglomerates who became super rich during World War 2. This global phenomenon had to reach Indian and Southeast Asian families. After all, the colonized minds always remain enslaved. Feminists in India were also created by the same modus operandi. Loads of dollars were paid to them to preach about the financial dependency of women, then harassment and later encouraging them to divorce their partners. These steps slowly trickled into the minds of all women and men in India too. Women started to follow the same path of financial independence, fighting with men over petty issues, and degrading home chores or giving birth to children as unwanted. Obviously, this led to doing household chores and raising children being looked down upon by everyone in society.

What Should You Do Lady?

Before that let me share a story that’s more than 5,000 years old, yet it might mirror your journey more than you imagine.

🏹 Amba: The Forgotten Princess Who Became a Warrior

In the Mahabharata, one of the oldest and deepest epics of humanity, there’s a tale tucked within the Shanti Parva (Chapter 12 of Mahabharata) that speaks volumes about dignity, pain, and rebirth.

Amba, the princess of Kashi, was abducted by Bhishma along with her sisters to marry his half-brother. But Amba loved someone else—King Shalva. Rejected by both men and abandoned by her own family, she was left alone, dishonored, and devastated.

Her story sounds like many women today who once had dreams, but felt discarded, unheard, and forgotten by society and even those they loved.

🔥 But Amba Did Not Stay Broken

Instead of surrendering, Amba transformed her agony into a mission. She meditated, performed severe penance, and invoked Lord Shiva. She was granted a boon—to be reborn as the one who would bring down Bhishma.

She was reborn as Shikhandi, a warrior who played a decisive role in Bhishma’s fall in the great war of Kurukshetra.

Shloka Reference:
“Shikhandinyā tu yā yātā purā bhūtvā mahā-rathī,
Tasyāḥ śāntir mahā-bāho! Śikhaṇḍinyāṁ pratiṣṭhitā.”
(Mahabharata, Shanti Parva, Adhyaya 81, Shloka 38)
Translation: The one who once became Shikhandi, the great warrior, attained peace by reclaiming her purpose.

🌺 What This Means For You, Dear Mother

Like Amba, you are not done.
Your dreams are not over.
Your identity is not lost.
You are just waiting to see yourself again.

Every act of care you give is a form of Tapasya—a sacred penance. It is not invisible. It is divine. Now don’t twist your nose. Be Smart. Take control of your life, slowly. No magic wand or fairy mother will help you, as we Indians should stop believing in those Western crap.

🧠 What Modern Psychology Says About This

Western Science supports this ancient truth.

Carl Jung: The Shadow Self

Jung explained that every person carries a “shadow”—a hidden side made of unspoken pain, unmet desires, and repressed potential. Healing begins not when we suppress the shadow, but when we face it with compassion.

Dr. Kristin Neff: The Power of Self-Compassion

Research shows that women who practice self-kindness and compassion experience less depression and greater emotional strength. It’s not about ignoring your responsibilities—it’s about honouring your own soul too.

✍️ Two Daily Practices to Reclaim Your Light

Here are two simple, science-backed and soul-touching practices for you to begin today:

🌞 1. Mirror Mantra Ritual (5 minutes every morning)

Stand before your mirror. Look deep into your own eyes.
Say aloud:

“I am visible. I matter. I am reclaiming my life.”

It may feel awkward at first, but neuroscience shows that regular affirmations rewire your brain—boosting confidence and calming the stress centres.

🌙 2. Sacred Dream Journal (10 minutes every night)

Before sleeping, write down one small dream just for you.
Not for your spouse.
Not for your children.
Not for anyone else.

It could be:

• Learning pottery
• Walking in a park alone
• Starting a blog
• Joining an online course
• Learning Music
• Starting a Painting
• Starting your Podcast on Youtube

This activates your Reticular Activating System (RAS)—a part of your brain that helps you notice opportunities to make those dreams real.

🌼 You Are Not Invisible

Amba did not wait for someone to rescue her.

She became her own saviour.
And so can you.

You don’t need permission to live fully.
You need only to remember who you are.

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💖 Final Words

You are not invisible.
You are a universe in motion.
And the world will begin to see you the moment you see yourself again.

🌸 With love,

Madhurie Singh

References:

Parva	Title	Sub-Parvas	Contents
1	The twelve years of exile in the forest (Aranya).	1-19	How the Mahabharata came to be narrated by Sauti to the assembled rishis at Naimisharanya. The recital of the Mahabharata at the sarpasattra of Janamejaya by Vaishampayana at Taksaśilā. The history of the Bharata race is told in detail and the parva also traces history of the Bhrigu race. The birth and early life of the Kuru princes. (adi means first)
2	Sabha Parva (The Book of the Assembly Hall)	20-28	Maya Danava erects the palace and court (sabha), at Indraprastha. Life at the court, Yudhishthira’s Rajasuya Yajna, the game of dice, and the eventual exile of the Pandavas.
3	Vana Parva also Aranyaka-parva, Aranya-parva (The Book of the Forest)	29-44	Preparations for war and efforts to bring about peace between the Kurus and the Pandavas which eventually failed (udyoga means effort or work).
4	Virata Parva (The Book of Virata)	45-48	The year in incognito spent at the court of Virata.
5	Udyoga Parva (The Book of the Effort)	49-59	The first part of the great battle, with Bhishma as commander of the Kauravas and his fall on the bed of arrows.
6	Bhishma Parva (The Book of Bhishma)	60-64	The royal ceremony of the Ashvamedha (Horse sacrifice) was conducted by Yudhisthira. The world conquest by Arjuna. The Anugita is told by Krishna to Arjuna.
7	Drona Parva (The Book of Drona)	65-72	The battle continues, with Drona as commander. This is the major book of the war. Most of the great warriors on both sides are dead by the end of this book.
8	Karna Parva (The Book of Karna)	73	The battle again, with Karna as commander.
9	Shalya Parva (The Book of Shalya)	74-77	The last day of the battle, with Shalya as commander. Also told in detail is the pilgrimage of Balarama to the fords of the river Saraswati and the mace fight between Bhima and Duryodhana which ends the war, since Bhima kills Duryodhana by smashing him on the thighs with a mace.
10	Sauptika Parva (The Book of the Sleeping Warriors)	78-80	Ashvattama, Kripa and Kritavarma kill the remaining Pandava army in their sleep. Only 7 warriors remain on the Pandava side and 3 on the Kaurava side.
11	Stri Parva (The Book of the Women)	81-85	Gandhari, Kunti and the women (stri) of the Kurus and Pandavas lament the dead.
12	Shanti Parva (The Book of Peace)	86-88	The crowning of Yudhisthira as king of Hastinapura, and instructions from Bhishma for the newly anointed king on society, economics and politics. This is the longest book of the Mahabharata (shanti means peace).
13	Anushasana Parva (The Book of the Instructions)	89-90	The final instructions (anushasana) from Bhishma.
14	Ashvamedhika Parva (The Book of the Horse Sacrifice)	91-92	The royal ceremony of the Ashvamedha (Horse sacrifice) conducted by Yudhisthira. The world conquest by Arjuna. The Anugita is told by Krishna to Arjuna.
15	Ashramavasika Parva (The Book of the Hermitage)	93-95	The eventual deaths of Dhritarashtra, Gandhari and Kunti in a forest fire when they are living in a hermitage in the Himalayas. Vidura predeceases them and Sanjaya on Dhritarashtra’s bidding goes to live in the higher Himalayas.
16	Mausala Parva (The Book of the Clubs)	96	The infighting between the Yadavas with maces (mausala) and the eventual destruction of the Yadavas.
17	Mahaprasthanika Parva (The Book of the Great Journey)	97	The great journey of Yudhisthira and his brothers across the whole country and finally their ascent of the great Himalayas where each Pandava falls except for Yudhisthira.
18	Svargarohana Parva (The Book of the Ascent to Heaven)	98	Yudhisthira’s final test and the return of the Pandavas to the spiritual world (svarga).